When I was trying to order a set meal in the restaurant, the waiter said


I am not sure why the past tense よろしかった is used here, I personally would say


I have heard the explanation that the past tense is used to show politeness, but I am not sure how past tense makes it more polite or if it has completely different meaning here.

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In short, your waiter said what he said because it is the "in" thing to do for young workers (mostly part-time) at inexpensive restaurants, fast food places, convenience stores, etc.

This speech style is called 「マニュアル[敬語]{けいご}」, 「コンビニ[言葉]{ことば}」、「ファミレス言葉」, etc. and it has been very common the last 20 years or so. (マニュアル = "manual", ファミレス = "family restaurant")

マニュアル敬語 is basically a set of honorific expressions that are not really "correct" by the traditional (or school) standards. Many young kids seeking employment are not good at honorific speech to begin with but the employers mentioned above have no time to teach it as it is not really their job. So, instead of letting them speak freely to their customers with their terrible honorific speech, they ended up creating "their own" simplified honorific phrases instead and the result is devastating IMHO. It sounds like a whole new language for people who are old enough to have kids working at those places. It has been criticized in the media quite heavily but it does not look like it is going out soon.

Using the past tense to confirm orders is one of those "rules". I cringe at it and so do many others but we hear it on a daily basis.


This sentence has not only one but two problems in it.

1) Use of past tense in よろしかった.

2) Use of の[方]{ほう}. That is completely unnecessary.

"Traditionally" the waiter would confirm your order by saying:


and that is exactly what a waiter would say at a more expensive restaurant.

No one knows how many more decades this speech will last but I personally feel embarrassed that this was pointed out by a Japanese-learner.

There is even an article on this on English Wiki, which means that it is one huge phenomenon.


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    I could accept that this is a special style of 敬語 used by young people, however I wish to know why they think that the past tense makes the expression honorific.
    – Misaka
    Aug 17, 2014 at 14:40
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    @Misaka It might be somewhat similar to the fact that even in English, "Could you ~~?", "Would you ~~?", etc. sound politer than "Can you ~~?", "Will you ~~?" By using the past tense, you are creating a psychological distance between yourself and the listener. Fast food people seem to think that it is one (easy) way to imply "We are not equals; You are above me." Obliqueness is the key.
    – user4032
    Aug 18, 2014 at 1:10
  • @Misaka, 非回答者's theory is not unlikely. My personal theory is that it's to hedge the possibility that it's already been mentioned: "(You might have already told me, but) did you want this one?"
    – dainichi
    Aug 20, 2014 at 10:04

It depends on how it is used.

If the customer had made all the orders, and the waiter is making a confirmation going through the orders, and if the non-past tense is used, then it will sound like the waiter simply forgot the order and is asking for the second time with a guess. That can be rude. By using the past tense, it expresses that the customer's selection/order is already an established fact.

If the past tense is used out of the blue, then it sounds a little strange. It may be a misuse, wrongly expanded from the usage just mentioned above, but still, a possible interpretation to this is that the waiter is standing on the point of view of the second person. From the second person's point of view, the choice was probably already made by the time the waiter is asking, and hence the past tense is used. It is sometimes considered polite to talk from the second person's point of view.

  • This would raise another question as I frequently hear the use of non-past tense even if I made all the orders.
    – Misaka
    Aug 17, 2014 at 14:47

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