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Questions tagged [politeness]

丁寧表現(待遇表現). From social politeness ("please", "thank you", etc) to the technical Japanese grammatical concepts of honorifics and respectful and humble forms known as "keigo".

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How often are です and 〜ます used among friends?

since they are polite forms are they ever often used in informal settings among friends? or would people think you’re being overly polite?
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Sentence structure + 人がわるい

Related to this. At this point, the speaker has won the preliminaries. The elderly chairman of the event, a friend since the previous tournament, comments that the speaker has won a second time (...
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How to say phrases “Can you repeat that” and “can we go to the next question”?

I have a speaking exam coming up and I'm feeling mostly prepared, but after there's an unprepared conversation part which we're also graded on. It's with my teacher but luckily keigo isn't necessary. ...
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What is going to ask my boss? [closed]

The chairman of the company I work is coming to greet us in an "informal situation". And maybe i have a few moments to introduce myself for the first time and speak to him. He is japanese and i would ...
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What's the ultra-polite way to invite someone to do something?

While reading What's the polite way to invite someone to do something?, I noticed that many of the comments/answers talk about how things are polite enough for an online chat service. Well, I'm ...
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Should I use sonkeigo if I meet a celebrity?

Yesterday I met a very famous Japanese person. I panicked and asked him, 「写真をとってもよろしいでしょうか」 Was this correct? Or was this too polite and kind of strange?
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Is honorific speech ever used in the first person?

I'm just starting out learning Japanese, and I've read that when using honorific and humble forms and conjugations, you use humble forms to refer to yourself, and honorific forms to refer to others, ...
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How to address a company in an email? [duplicate]

When writing an email to a person I would add 様 or "sama" at the end of the name in the email opening. However if I'm writing to a company and don't know the recipient's name would I add "sama" as ...
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About using おかげさまで as a standalone

I've been doing some research on おかげさまで and, not content with just memorising sayings, am wondering why おかげさまで is used as a standalone/response. Does it mean 'thanks to you', 'thanks to God and ...
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Does using the past tense make the conversation more polite?

I am wondering if the past tense is used sometimes to increase the level of politeness in a conversation which occurs in present form. For example: お待たせしました In that case, under which circumstances ...
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「許可が来ましたか?」の尊敬語

A社の社長 ↑ A社のプロジェクトマネージャー ↑ 私 ↑:許可を依頼する 私は作業を始める前、お客さん(A社)の許可を待っています。 A社のプロジェクトマネージャーが先週「社長に許可を依頼する」と言ってましたが、期日が近づいてますのでどうなったかを知りたいです。 つまり、「...
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How to address misbehaving kids (not one's own)

Say you are in public and see some other people's kids misbehaving. What is the appropriate way to address them? (both sexes) Something on the line of: "Hey kid, don't do ..." It might be specific ...
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Polite form of apology with tense form?

After missing an appointment, which would be more appropriate for asking for forgiveness or apologizing? ごめんなさい でした or 本当にごめんね。ほんとうに ごめんね In particular, considering the difference between the ...
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What is the difference between なさいます and いたします?

お飲み物はどうなさいますか。 お飲み物はどういたしますか。 I can't understand how one might be used instead of the other.
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忙しいところ vs 忙しいなか

I've been preparing for an interview, and I've seen both of these phrases used when introducing yourself and thanking someone for their time or when support is being given. For example: ...
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What would be the best way to respond to thank you and a compliment at the same time?

I helped someone online translate something from English into Japanese and they responded with: ありがとうございます! イラスト素敵です 👌😊" (<* i do illustrations) I want to say "thank you very much!" but ...
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Grammar vs. politeness: a tale of two evils

In "The structure of the Japanese language", Susumo Kuno uses the example (p. 130) John wa sensei ni kono hon o {moratta / itadaita}. Both have a problem: itadaku should be used only in the first ...
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Why お寺 but 神社 (not ご神社)?

Why the difference between Buddhist temples, お寺, and Shinto shrines, 神社? (The latter does not take ご神社, お神社 or 御神社.)
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okay to use 男/女 as opposed to 男/女の人 to refer to yourself?

A friend of mine is practicing Japanese and created the sentence 私は女の人ではありません。私も男の人ではありません intending to say "I am not a woman, I am also not a man" I offered to improve the sentence as 私は男でも女でもありません, ...
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What's the polite way to invite someone to do something?

For example: "If you want to practice English, feel free/you are welcome to message me". How do you carry the nuance of "you are welcome to but don't feel obliged?" If I said 英語を練習したいならメッセージしてください ...
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How to politely and indirectly tell someone they forgot to do something?

Let's say someone who's above me, like a teacher or a boss, forgot to do something. How would I notify them without being rude? I only know the basic "~するのを忘れました"(though I'm not even sure if that's ...
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どうも vs vs ありがとう vs ありがとうございます [duplicate]

I am currently learning Japanese. I have learnt the writing systems, pronunciation, words and phrases. Apparently, there are a few words phrases you should use for Thank you, such as どうも, ありがとう or ...
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Can polite and casual Japanese be combined?

What I mean is, is there any overlap? are you allowed to speak in a way that combines both forms of speech? like are there words that, even if using formal speech, are typical to use casual speech ...
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What do you say when you want to reject a gift without offending anyone?

If you are offered something that you don't want, what do you say to reject it politely?
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Any better way to ask “How are you?” instead of “お元気ですか?”

I'm very curios to know about the meaning of "お元気ですか?". This could be the very basic question. But once I asked my office colleague(Japanese Native) "お元気ですか?". so his reply was very shocking to me. He ...
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Is 休みたいです more polite than 休みたい?

Is 休みたいです more polite than 休みたい? It is necessary to say です in every "たい" word to sound more polite?
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How does one differentiate between future tense (will) and present tense?

How do I differentiate between future tense and present tense. For example, the sentence: 私は魚を食べる If I am not mistaken, the above sentence can either mean "I will eat fish" or "I eat fish". ...
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Are both of these correct sentences: 「ここに住所を書いてくださいますか?」「ここに住所を書いてくださいませんか?」?

I believe 「ここに住所を書いてくださいますか?」 means “Could you please write the address here?” And 「ここに住所を書いてくださいませんか?」 means “Would you please write the address here?” An exercise I’m doing shows the second ...
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What does あいつ and こいつ imply in various situations/contexts?

I've read that あいつ and こいつ can mean "that person over there" or "this person over here", respectively, and also that (at least, as far as I'm aware, for こいつ) they are an impolite way of referring to a ...
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Is this proper use of 敬語 in a business situation?

For context, I am writing a menu for a made-up restaurant, and want to provide English and Japanese restaurants. This is an exercise I made up for myself. I want to include a phrase that is like, "A ...
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Is there a difference in (im)politeness between ~てくれ and ~て?

I understand that ~てください is the polite request form, and that both ~てくれ and simply using the ~て form are both more colloquial. I'm just not sure how they compare, my guess would be that ~てくれ is more ...
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Is there a good reason why I can use a polite form before から but not before ので? [duplicate]

Does anybody know why - historically, etymologically or logically - one can use polite forms (e.g. -ます) in causal subordinate clauses before から, while one must use the plain form before ので?
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How do I respond to よろしくお願いします after being assigned a task at work?

My supervisor at work tells me よろしくお願いします after she gives me a task to do in the office. What is the appropriate way to respond? I've looked around on the internet but have been unsuccessful in ...
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How to ask if someone wants to continue farming a boss in game / Interrupt to leave

My attempt at both: A: ボスと戦い直したいか? Do you want to keep going? (Fight the boss again?) B: ちょっと・・・ Well... (I don't think I can) But if I have to leave because of an emergency or about to go ...
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What is the difference between 「もらいませんか」 and 「もらいましょうか」? [duplicate]

I came across this fill-in-the-blanks question in a reviewer: にもつ、_____ か。 The choices are もらいません or もらいましょう. My current understanding is that もらいませんか is of the form V-ませんか which translates to "...
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What is the difference between dono hito and donata?

I got to know that dono hito specifically asks about a person while donata is for who in general, so does taht imply to all living beings? Are both used in formal conversations?(If yes, which is ...
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Thank you speech for schools and city officials [closed]

I have to give speeches for a group of 5th grade students and their parents that thanks the schools and cities for hosting us and showing us around. since i am the only parent that somewhat knows ...
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What does ご理解いただけた はずでは? mean here? [closed]

構いませんが すべては手紙に記した通りです... ご理解いただけた はずでは?
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Understanding この度のご縁

Context: a girl from an upper class family has met the man her parents want her to marry. At the end of the evening, she tells him: この度のご縁ありがたく思っております。 I get that this is a super polite way of ...
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When to use the counter word mei 名 over nin 人?

Beginner here. When would you use the counter word 名 over 人? I read online that 名 is used for formal situations, and literally every website gave counting customers as the example (as in, asking how ...
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The different usage between “致します” and “申し上げます” interms of 補助動詞

As titled, I have difficulty telling when to use "致します" or "申し上げます" as opposed to the other one. For example, ご連絡くださいますようお願い致します/お願い申し上げます。 ご愛顧を賜わりますようお願い致します/お願い申し上げます。 here is another one ...
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Polite way to ask for help on a boss for a game?

There's a boss in a small Japanese mmo that I can beat if I had one more person about the same level. I'm not sure how rude/gaijin it is to ask for help though, but would it be ok for me to say in ...
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Conditionals: と良いだ/です should be wrong?

It is said that the と conditional must not be used where the main clause expresses any of the following: an intention, a suggestion, a command, an obligation, a request, etc. However, I've encountered ...
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Differences between -kudasaimasuka/kudasaimasenka and -itadakemasenka/itadakitainodesuga

My textbook just put some examples without explanations, so i wonder if these sentences have the same meanings or there are differences. お名前をお書きくださいますか and お名前をお書きくださいませんか。 その論文の題をお教えいただけませんか ...
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Asking a business contact to make a request on my behalf?

I am helping to plan an event featuring the work of a Japanese artist. I'm speaking to his representative, and would like to ask the question, Can you ask (name) if he would be willing to write a ...
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Is it rude to refer to a person as 古い?

Objects, you can refer to as 古い with impunity. But I have never once heard a person referred to as 古い, so for a long time I thought the word just didn't apply to people. Still, searching 古い男 on Google ...
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Is desu needed at the end of every single sentence? Also, can you add end particles at the end of every word/sentence?

When can desu be omitted? Is it needed for every single sentence? Also, can I add sentence ending particles to the end of any word? Such as, "学校ね?" as in "school, right?" Thanks. Edit: I'm still a ...
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Can you use “anata” with people you don't know well?

I have read repeatedly that the pronoun "anata" (meaning "you") is very personal and should not be used. But to say something like "Which car is yours?" I would say "Dono kuruma ga anata no desu ka?" ...
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What does でござんしょうな mean in 馬車はいつ出るのでござんしょうな

馬車はいつ出るのでござんしょうな Does this sentence mean "When will the horse cart come out?" But what does でござんしょうな mean here? Should this be broken down into three parts as で + ござんしょう + な? I know ございます means ...
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Polite phrase apologizing for irregular (written) correspondence

What is the set phrase used to apologize for not corresponding regularly?