Questions tagged [politeness]

丁寧表現(待遇表現). From social politeness ("please", "thank you", etc) to the technical Japanese grammatical concepts of honorifics and respectful and humble forms known as "keigo".

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What's the proper form (formal/informal) to use when speaking to others online?

I should preface this by saying that I myself am fairly young (a teenager) and speak primarily to other young people (while I may not know their exact age, it's safe to assume the other people I speak ...
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Politeness of 何をお願いしましたか

I've learned that お・ご+語幹+する is humble language, for example よろしくお願いします。 However, when asking others what they wished for, I see the question: 李:小野さんは何をお願いしましたか。 小野:健康と恋愛です。 Background: Li and ...
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How would a fluent speaker understand ありがとうございません?

How could that forced negation of a common phrase be interpreted? This came up as just a part of some free exploration of linguistics, and my friends and I were pondering if it could perhaps be ...
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お目にかけますのは <- is it correct

I found this in my textbook. ただいまよりお目にかけますのは小学生によるバンド演奏です。 Is it strange ? Is it more polite than お目にかけるのは ? PS.Sorry for my note
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How to politely address an older relative's birthday card

I am a 69 year old English speaking Canadian woman. I am about to send a birthday card to a second cousin in Japan. We have never met. This woman is going to turn 100yrs old. How should I address her ...
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Why do people use です/ます in some intimate situations?

2 things recently have just not made sense to me 1) is from a visual novel. In one scene the main character is on a date with his superior from work. She's confessing her love for him, but the main ...
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Why is Atom not given any honorifics in アストロボーイ・鉄腕アトム? Is it because he's a robot?

I'm very new to Japanese I'd like to apologize now for any glaring mistakes up front. Revisiting Astro boy, I've noticed that Atom is very rarely called by any kind of honorific, just アトム. The only ...
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What is the grammar of ご機嫌【きげん】よう? [duplicate]

What is the grammar of ご機嫌【きげん】よう? It is made of three or, we might say, two parts: ご 機嫌【きげん】 Good spiritswith honorific よう What is よう? Is it 様【よう】 in the sense of "form, style"? Per jisho.org ...
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Implicitly self-referring honorifics

I am told that ご連絡します for “I will contact you“ is not more polite than 連絡します but simply wrong because the honorific ご should qualify actions done by the interlocutor, not by myself. To make it polite ...
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I'm looking for some pointers on polite, standard sentences when working in a service-oriented capacity [closed]

I've recently begun work in the tourism sector, mainly behind the hotel's bar and in the restaurant. I'm expecting some Japanese guests in the next few months. While I've studied Japanese language ...
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What's the difference between 僕等, 我々, 僕たち, and お互い?

As I read more Japanese texts, I’m finding there are a lot of ways to say “us.” Are there any contextual differences or differences in politeness level between 僕等, 我々, 僕たち, and お互い?
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Difference between いたします and させていただきます

When writing in humble 謙譲語{けんじょうご} language, I see いたします and させていただきます. What is the difference between these two forms? For example both mean "I will contact you" in humble language, what is the ...
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Why is being indirect more polite than being direct in Japanese?

In Japanese, the more indirect a question (or a sentence in general) is, the more polite it is considered. Is there a reason for this?
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How do you ask someone to '' please yobisute ''?

I just learned about the concept of yobisute. If someone calls me John San , and I want them to drop the honorific and just call me John how should I say this ? Would it be just ''Yobisute kudasai'' ...
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Is 何それ a rude phrase?

I searched the term on the site, and I noticed that while it could mean "what's that", it also had some negative meanings. What would be a better way to ask "What's that?"
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Which is more polite, ではまた or じゃまた?

Context: The terms are used when leaving chat sessions. Some people type deha/wamata and others, jya/jaomata. Which one is more polite?
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謙譲語 (Kenjougo) Beginner question

Good day, I'm currently studying Japanese in a school here in Tokyo and I'm on my 5th month already here. Problem is that the lesson here is sometimes too fast, which is why I need to use other ...
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How do parents say “I” when talking to their children in Japanese?

When a parent is talking to their child in Japanese, what are the common ways of saying "I"? I've often heard parents refer to themselves in the 3rd person, ie お母さんについてきて ("come with me"), お父さんの車を洗って (...
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Asking for autograph politely

I am a big fan of badminton, especially the Japanese players like Kento Momota-san, and in a few months they will come to my country, and I would like to get some of them to sign their autograph in my ...
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What are the social implications of being too polite lingustically?

Reviewing some basic keigo forms, I was wondering what happens if you express yourself too polite... I heared that is not uncommon for (elder) couples to use keigo to express their uttermost respect ...
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How to say sir/ma'am when you don't know the name of the person

When you don't someone's name, how do you call his attention? That is, when you would say "Sir, could you maybe ..." or "ma'am, you dropped something ..."
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Should one use the -masu form of verbs when talking about one's own actions?

If I'm having a conversation with someone in which I am using the polite form of verbs, should I also use the -masu form if I'm describing something I do or did? If I'm saying, for example, 私は午前八時に起きる,...
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Do people only end sentences with ように after the -ます form?

Someone left a comment on the answer to this ending sentences with ように question saying that it only works with the -ます form. I tried looking up (どうか)~ように。sentences and all the ones I found were in ...
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why do they use 程 when requesting [duplicate]

in the company culture why do they say ご確認の程お願いします? what is the purpose of 程? is it to add a level of politeness?
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How politely to say “you”?

I found many variants in the internet, but they include あなた, which as I know isn't polite and better not to say it to a stranger. So, if I don't know the name/last name of the person, don't know the ...
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Declining an offer politely using ちょっと and 無理

Some girls in the Japanese school I study in are planing to do a Maid Cafe, which my teacher have sent me a message inviting me to take part into saying 「メイド喫茶に参加してみませんか?」. Honestly, I don't think I'm ...
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Politeness / Respectfulness / Humility / Formality

The wikipedia article "Honorific speech in Japanese" states that Japanese has grammatical functions to express several different emotions. Not only politeness but also respectfulness, humility and ...
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Do only shop staff use 当店, or could I use it too to say 'here'?

I heard it in the context of a shop staff saying it in anime, but it got me thinking about the different ways I might say 'here' in a sentence like 'Do you serve vegetarian meals here?' ここは。。。 こちらは。。...
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How often are です and 〜ます used among friends?

since they are polite forms are they ever often used in informal settings among friends? or would people think you’re being overly polite?
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Sentence structure + 人がわるい

Related to this. At this point, the speaker has won the preliminaries. The elderly chairman of the event, a friend since the previous tournament, comments that the speaker has won a second time (...
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How to say phrases “Can you repeat that” and “can we go to the next question”?

I have a speaking exam coming up and I'm feeling mostly prepared, but after there's an unprepared conversation part which we're also graded on. It's with my teacher but luckily keigo isn't necessary. ...
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What's the ultra-polite way to invite someone to do something?

While reading What's the polite way to invite someone to do something?, I noticed that many of the comments/answers talk about how things are polite enough for an online chat service. Well, I'm ...
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Should I use sonkeigo if I meet a celebrity?

Yesterday I met a very famous Japanese person. I panicked and asked him, 「写真をとってもよろしいでしょうか」 Was this correct? Or was this too polite and kind of strange?
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Is honorific speech ever used in the first person?

I'm just starting out learning Japanese, and I've read that when using honorific and humble forms and conjugations, you use humble forms to refer to yourself, and honorific forms to refer to others, ...
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How to address a company in an email? [duplicate]

When writing an email to a person I would add 様 or "sama" at the end of the name in the email opening. However if I'm writing to a company and don't know the recipient's name would I add "sama" as ...
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About using おかげさまで as a standalone

I've been doing some research on おかげさまで and, not content with just memorising sayings, am wondering why おかげさまで is used as a standalone/response. Does it mean 'thanks to you', 'thanks to God and ...
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Does using the past tense make the conversation more polite?

I am wondering if the past tense is used sometimes to increase the level of politeness in a conversation which occurs in present form. For example: お待たせしました In that case, under which circumstances ...
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「許可が来ましたか?」の尊敬語

A社の社長 ↑ A社のプロジェクトマネージャー ↑ 私 ↑:許可を依頼する 私は作業を始める前、お客さん(A社)の許可を待っています。 A社のプロジェクトマネージャーが先週「社長に許可を依頼する」と言ってましたが、期日が近づいてますのでどうなったかを知りたいです。 つまり、「...
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How to address misbehaving kids (not one's own)

Say you are in public and see some other people's kids misbehaving. What is the appropriate way to address them? (both sexes) Something on the line of: "Hey kid, don't do ..." It might be specific ...
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Polite form of apology with tense form?

After missing an appointment, which would be more appropriate for asking for forgiveness or apologizing? ごめんなさい でした or 本当にごめんね。ほんとうに ごめんね In particular, considering the difference between the ...
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What is the difference between なさいます and いたします?

お飲み物はどうなさいますか。 お飲み物はどういたしますか。 I can't understand how one might be used instead of the other.
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忙しいところ vs 忙しいなか

I've been preparing for an interview, and I've seen both of these phrases used when introducing yourself and thanking someone for their time or when support is being given. For example: ...
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What would be the best way to respond to thank you and a compliment at the same time?

I helped someone online translate something from English into Japanese and they responded with: ありがとうございます! イラスト素敵です 👌😊" (<* i do illustrations) I want to say "thank you very much!" but ...
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Grammar vs. politeness: a tale of two evils

In "The structure of the Japanese language", Susumo Kuno uses the example (p. 130) John wa sensei ni kono hon o {moratta / itadaita}. Both have a problem: itadaku should be used only in the first ...
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Why お寺 but 神社 (not ご神社)?

Why the difference between Buddhist temples, お寺, and Shinto shrines, 神社? (The latter does not take ご神社, お神社 or 御神社.)
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okay to use 男/女 as opposed to 男/女の人 to refer to yourself?

A friend of mine is practicing Japanese and created the sentence 私は女の人ではありません。私も男の人ではありません intending to say "I am not a woman, I am also not a man" I offered to improve the sentence as 私は男でも女でもありません, ...
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What's the polite way to invite someone to do something?

For example: "If you want to practice English, feel free/you are welcome to message me". How do you carry the nuance of "you are welcome to but don't feel obliged?" If I said 英語を練習したいならメッセージしてください ...
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How to politely and indirectly tell someone they forgot to do something?

Let's say someone who's above me, like a teacher or a boss, forgot to do something. How would I notify them without being rude? I only know the basic "~するのを忘れました"(though I'm not even sure if that's ...
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どうも vs vs ありがとう vs ありがとうございます [duplicate]

I am currently learning Japanese. I have learnt the writing systems, pronunciation, words and phrases. Apparently, there are a few words phrases you should use for Thank you, such as どうも, ありがとう or ...
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Can polite and casual Japanese be combined?

What I mean is, is there any overlap? are you allowed to speak in a way that combines both forms of speech? like are there words that, even if using formal speech, are typical to use casual speech ...

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