Context: A guy asks a girl if someone (another girl) is her friend because she was with her the day after. This is what she answers. I understand 一方的 means one sided and 憧れてる is to long for or admire. Full sentence reads as follows:

あ いやっ... 私が一方的に憧れてるだけで。

The いやっ at the beginning makes me think this is a negative answer. Does this mean something along the lines of

No we are not friends, but I admire her.

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Going by the context you describe in the question, the meaning of that response does constitute a negative answer to the effect of something like

Well, I admire/like her. That's it. The feeling is not reciprocated.

So my rendering is a bit wordy because I am trying to render it in natural English. Although it is a negative response to the question asked, I don't think the いや here is a hard, clipped "No". Rather, it is closer to a filler and better translated as "well" or maybe "well, not really." For more on いや, see this answer:

The usage of いや in response to questions

一方的に, as you say, means "one-sided", "unreciprocated".

憧れる means something closer to "like". The aspect in the original Japanese line is continuous (憧れてる, contracted from 憧れている), telling us the action is ongoing, but I'm reluctant to use the present continuous or the present perfect continuous. In such situations usually the simple present does the job just fine, and the other two tense-aspect combinations would sound weird.

だけ is a noun meaning "only", "just", "merely", or "simply"

で is the conjunctive form of copula だ

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