refering someone as 君

Question

I always thought that 君 is only used by males to refer to females as 2nd person. Usages:

1.male -> female , 君、あなた (君 is used only in romantic situations)

2.female -> male , あなた (Not possible to say 君 at all. In fact, even あなた sounds weird since it really means "husband")

3.male -> male , 君、あなた

4.female -> female , 君、あなた

Question is, for #1, is the assumption right that if 君 is used, it signals that the male is trying to be flirty with the female? For #2, is the assunption right that females will never use 君 to refer to a guy? And あなた also seems weird so to speak since it really means "husband". So how does a female refer to a male apart from by the name

Answer 1

It is much simpler than I think you are putting it. First of all, if you are speaking Japanese the best advice is to learn your partners name and use that. If it is a case where you don't know their name, あなた is a fine option as it is the polite way to address someone else. 君 is often used when your are talking to someone who is below you in some way, and it has a familiar sound to it. Although in practice you don't hear these all that often, most people refer to each other by name unless they are fairly close.