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I would like to know the difference and usage (frequency, oral/written) for てばかりはいられない with regards to てはいられない

Both seem to be pretty close:

人生そんなに長くないのだから待ってばかりはいられない。 Life is short so I can’t wait forever.

どんなに辛くても、泣いてばかりもいられない。 No matter how tough it is, I can’t keep crying.

明日は早く起きるので、いつものように遅くまでテレビを見てはいられない。I have to wake up early tomorrow, so I can’t watch TV until late as usual.

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I think it may make things clearer to look at てばかりいられない as a combination of two separate grammar points: てばかりいる and ていられない.

ていられない, as you seem to know, expresses the inability to continuously be in some state, or to continue being in that state. I couldn't find a good site for this in English, but here is a pretty simple explanation in Japanese. A simple example might be:

もうこれ以上待っていられない

I can't wait any more than this

てばかりいる is used to describe doing nothing but a certain thing, typically with critical or negative connotations. Here's a simple explanation. A simple example might be:

スマホを見てばかりいると目が悪くなりますよ

If you're always looking at your smartphone, your eyesight will get worse

Consequently, てばかりいられない expresses the inability to (continuously) do just one thing. So translations for your examples might look something like this:

人生そんなに長くないのだから待ってばかりはいられない

Life is short, so I can't just keep waiting forever

どんなに辛くても、泣いてばかりもいられない

No matter how hard it gets, I can't just keep crying

In both cases, ばかりいられない is expressing the fact that the speaker can't keep doing nothing but these specific actions at the expense of other things. Just 待っていられない or 泣いていられない would suggest that the speaker simply couldn't wait or couldn't cry for any significant period of time, whereas the actual implication is that the speaker can't continue to do nothing but crying or waiting. Again I couldn't find a great explanation in English, but here's one in Japanese.

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  • Great explanation, and thank youbfor the links – Makoto Mar 15 at 19:24

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