We know that in japanese people usually say '愛している', TO LOVER. CAN i say 愛する? or あなたがすきです?. Besides, is '愛している' is a single verb?

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Since the question regards "expressing love" I feel compelled to add something.

It is very important to underline that "expressing love" in Japan is a concept that can be very very different from the way we are used to see it "in the west" (to make a rough generalisation, say mostly Europe and North America).

Based on both personal and friends experiences in regard to "love" in Japan (and I'm talking of several cases, both "foreigner-Japanese" and "Japanese-Japanese") saying "I love you", or 愛している, is not so common after all. Of course, this is something that might greatly depend on the people, but I have to say that in general is as I said. Also, my impression is that if it is being used, is mostly because Japanese people now know well that foreigner like to say "I love you" and that is translated as "愛している!"... I hope what I mean here is clear, it's a bit hard to explain (and besides, as I said is just my personal feeling).

Anyway, you will hear much more often Japanese people saying (あなたが)好きです or 大好きです rather than 愛している, even when the relationship has been going on for a while. This also is quite interesting as it gives a different perspective to the word "好き", that is often simply translated as "to like", while sometimes might bear a much deeper meaning, depending on the situation.

But I have to say that most of the times... you probably will not hear anything at all! My feeling is that in "the west" we say "I love you" or in general we express our love through (spoken or written) words much more often than Japanese people (in general) do. And probably when and if they do they do it in a much different way anyway.

I guess that this (feelings) is one of those topics where if you start digging you realise that sometimes even the word "translation" becomes almost meaningless. You can find the right words, you can find the most suitable words ever actually to express what you have in mind, or in you heart for that matters. However, no matter how perfect your translation is, you cannot change the way people feel. That's where sometimes communication with words fails, big time. Fortunately, that is not the only form of communication there is. :)

This could probably start an interesting discussion about the different way in which people in Japan (and I believe in good part of Asia in general) live and express their feelings, especially about love. However, I believe that this would go too much off topic.

I hope what I tried to express is clear, is a very subtle topic and I hope I did not create misunderstandings. If unclear, please leave a comment.


愛する sounds like "I will love you", but not "I love you now". So, 愛している is correct.

If you're close enough to say such a thing, you can change している→してる. It sounds more relaxed!

You can say 「[other person's name]のことがすきだ」 if you're a guy, or 「[other person's name]のことがすき」 if you're a girl. You can replace the name with a word for "you" like きみ or あなた if you want, but my old girlfriend didn't like to be called by a pronoun, even by me or her own family.

愛している is a noun meaning "love" plus a form of する. There are a lot of nouns that can be used directly with する.

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    On a side note, the のこと can be important. If you say ___が好きです, it is more ambiguous whether you mean it in a romantic way, whereas ___のことが好きです is much more clearly romantic (probably the most typical line for confessing love to a new romantic interest). I can say from experience (oops) that forgetting the のこと can potentially lead to confusion, at least initially. Commented Jun 18, 2016 at 12:02
  • How exactly does のこと affect the meaning? Doesn't こと normally mean 'thing'?
    – debrucey
    Commented Jun 18, 2016 at 12:51
  • I wish I could say it did. That would make it much easier to understand! In early stages of learning, こと usually means "thing". But, as you progress, you'll learn a lot of uses where "thing" isn't a good translation. I'm honestly not sure how to explain こと in this case. I just learned it as I heard people around me use it. Perhaps you can thing of it being something like "I like everything about you" rather than just "I like you". I don't know the actual origin of this usage, though.
    – Nick O.
    Commented Jun 18, 2016 at 13:15
  • @debrucey try to think of こと as not "thing" but rather "concept" or "idea" on an abstract level. こと is for intangible, abstract features while もの is reserved for tangible, objective features.
    – user11589
    Commented Jun 18, 2016 at 13:56
  • Ah I see. So it sort of means "I like the concept/idea of you." Fascinating.
    – debrucey
    Commented Jun 18, 2016 at 14:18

愛する is a verb and 愛している is a progressive form of it.

We say commonly を愛している than を愛する。

I think we say 好き with a light heart than を愛している.

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