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I read online about different usages for あなた and how it can convey meanings and it's best to be avoided as it can come off as rude.

so I got into a situation where I was referred as anata by an older Japanese guy who knows my name and calls me by it. I got confused.

He was complimenting my Japanese and followed it up with: あなたはとても、すごいです。I'm not sure if あなた here conveys distance?

appreciate any explanation!

  • Just to straighten out l'electeur's comment about the comma: Was this in speech or in writing? – dainichi Jun 23 '15 at 3:27
  • yes, it was in writing. – MilkySnow Jun 23 '15 at 6:25
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My real question here would be: "Would that gentleman have referred to you as 「あなた」 if you were a Japanese girl of your age?"

If that is how he usually refers to others, then that is just his speech style. Whether that is common or not is not his concern. In all of my life as a Japanese-speaker living in Japan since birth, I honestly have yet to encounter a person who does that. But who knows? Your friend may be that very rare Japanese-speaker.

Another thing I would like to mention is the fact that quite a few Japanese people speak a "different" kind of Japanese when they speak to non-Japanese people. This is probably not openly mentioned often but they do that. Some of you may have noticed it as well.

The frequent use of pronouns is one big feature of this "different" kind of Japanese that I speak of. It is also heard/seen in Japanese dubbing and subtitles of non-Japanese films, dramas, animation, etc. Though to a lesser extent, pronouns are more often used in fiction (than in real life) that is originally in Japanese as well.

So, it is difficult to discuss what was intended by the short sentence 「あなたはとても、すごいです。」 taken out of the context. I personally do not really feel that it conveys distance but that is just a feeling. He may have used 「あなた」 here because he had already used your name a few times immediately before this.

(To be completely honest, the sentence 「あなたはとても、すごいです。」 does not flow well. Why the comma? It looks like something a begnning J-learner would say. It looks like it took one 3 minutes to form that sentence.)

  • Thank you for your response.I'd like to apologize as English isn't my first Language in case I made mistakes . I found it a bit confusing since I always read that anata is best to be avoided & it's mostly by female--> male or can denote other meanings as well. so I wondered if it's any difference from male --> female. I'm non-Japanese, which makes a lot of sense. It was in writing, the construction of the sentence confused me too. I really appreciate the answer and including different kind of Japanese. I learned a lot by reading previous posts on this site as well as writing up my question. – MilkySnow Jun 23 '15 at 6:40
  • > "quite a few Japanese people speak a "different" kind of Japanese when they speak to non-Japanese people" - Do they do that subconsciously, or do they do that on purpose? – Blavius Jun 24 '15 at 15:09

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