My question is how is the concept of "getting to know" or "knowing" someone conveyed? How do you invite someone to get to know you better? I was posting a message on mixi and could not figure out what the phrase for this was.
Sentence example so you can understand contextually...
If I sound nice, then don't be scared to get to know me. or I'd prefer not to talk about that until I know you better.
How do I express this in japanese? Are there stock phrases? Any help is appreciated.
知{し}り合{あ}う is used for "getting to know"; with the noun 知り合い being used to mean "an acquaintance" or "someone you know a little (less that a close friend)".
Examples
- 留学の時、ほかの留学生と知り合ったのに、親しい関係だとは言えない。 → During my time as an exchange student, even though I got to know some of the other exchange students, I wouldn't (can't) really say I was close with any of them.
- 最近通っているラーメン屋さんと知り合いになっている。 → I've been getting to know the owner(s) of the ramen shop (that) I've been going to lately.
- あの子はほんの知り合いにすぎません。 → That girl is nothing more than an acquaintance. (Not sure if the ほんの here is derogatory or not ー I feel like it might be).
for peeps: 知り合う or as it was covered above: 近く・ as in literally get close to someone. XXさんと近くなりたい. Depending on the context it isn't always sexual.
In a letter from my Mother in law I once saw 懇意になる but that's my only encounter with it.
For inanimate stuff you'd probably be best using なれる which i often use in the following sentence.
英語のキーは人気だけど、使ったことなければなれるのはちょっと時間がかかる可能性があります。
