I'd like to know how to politely ask someone (as a question, not a statement) to do something for me in Japanese. I'm already aware of the basic "___をください" and "___をおねがいします" patterns, but I don't want to use these because they actually sound very rude to me.
Personally, I never say things like "Give me that book, please" in English, because it sounds rather demanding, (since it is a statement) and adding "please" at the end doesn't do much to make this sound polite, IMO. I would instead say something like "Could you please give me that book?" or "Would you mind handing me that book?," etc.
The primary difference to me is that asking for things in question forms sounds much more natural to me. I feel uncomfortable saying things like "みずをおねがいします。" regardless of whether or not this is considered perfectly polite in Japanese. I would just prefer another polite way to ask for things.
Could someone give me Japanese sentence patterns similar to:
"Could you please ____?"
"Would you mind ____?"
"Could I have you ____, please?"
"If it isn't too much trouble, could I get you to ____ for me?"