I cannot completely grasp the meaning されて堪らない. As far as I can understand ~てたまらない means "Really want to do, extremely.", but I'm a bit of unsere with passive voice in the following sentence.

Some sort of translation: "I want you to tell me frankly. You are clever so I understand that you are thinking thoroughly, and you absolutely cannot stop being self-sufficent(自己完結) about it."


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  • ~てたまらない means "extremely" and has nothing do with wanting, unless the ~て is ほしくて, or ~たくて. For example, 眠くてたまらない → extremely tired, 暑くてたまらない → very hot, or 車を買いたくてたまらない → really want to buy a car. – istrasci Dec 28 '13 at 19:10

It is the speaker that is doing both the される and the たまらない in this sentence. (i.e. he is the one being passively subjected to the other person doing 自己完結).

In general I don't think you would go too far wrong to remember たまらない literally as "cannot bear" rather than something abstracted like "extremely". Most of its uses follow naturally from that literal definition.

三省堂 entry for たまらない 【▽堪らない】

(3)…されることに耐えられない。とても困る。 「毎朝五時に起こされたのでは―ない」

So in this case, the speaker is saying that he really doesn't appreciate being 自己完結'd by the other person, and is hoping (asking) that they stop.

Also, be sure you understand what is meant by 自己完結. If you aren't completely clear about the sense of an unfamiliar Japanese word and it doesn't fit super-snugly into the context, consult a Japanese monolingual dictionary, especially for phrases like this when EDICT is more confusing than helpful with its short definitions. Concerning 自己完結:

(Regarding some matter, the state of being satisfied or reaching a resolution only within oneself. Sometimes used with a negative nuance of "though no resolution has yet been reached from the perspective of the people around him, he himself selfishly considers it settled".)

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  • Thank you very much for your help. Then this translation seems legit: "I want you to tell me frankly. You are clever so I understand that you are thinking thoroughly, but it's prolematic if reach conclusion about it only by yourself on me." ? Well, even though 自己完結 is in passive here, I don't think that the one who is thought about is the speaker, so I tried to add "on me" to show the passive form in translation. – renchan Dec 28 '13 at 21:10

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