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What word can I use for 'they', when referring to a mixed gender group?

I.e. for a group of guys, you have: 彼たち、かれら and for girls it's: 彼女たち 彼女ら So if you have a mixed group, which one should you go with? Is there a different word?
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how could a sentence end with (noun + “よ”?)

I'd thought you cannot end a sentence with a noun. Rather: noun + だ。 noun + です。 noun + である。 noun + であります。 noun + でございます。 But in a movie dialogue, I heard: "大切なのは、心よ。" Ending a sentence with a noun ...
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What differences should I look out for between male vs female speech?

I was told a story where a male westerner learnt Japanese from his girlfriend and ended up speaking more like a female. The storyteller thought this was hilarious. What important differences should I ...
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How important is gendered language in reality? [closed]

Many people say that gendered language is especially important in Japanese. To a point, I can understand this, but only to a certain distance. For example, if I (Fe/male) were to say 'Wow, that show ...
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When women use わ at the end of a sentence, is it different from よ?

My understanding of using わ at the end of a sentence is that it's essentially just for emphasis, just like using よ, and that only women can use it. However, as far as I know, women can, and often do, ...
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Can かまってちゃん be used for males?

This word is used to describe someone who bothers or even annoys other people in order to get attention. The most common translation to English is drama queen, and the Japanese version sounds ...
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How to shorten conjugations of “must” forms without sounding girly?

I know the full conjugations of expressing things that must/must not be done (ex:行かなくてはだめ)and their slang forms (ex:行かなくちゃ) but I've heard the ちゃ sounds like a little girl speaking? If that's true, ...
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Can girls use だよね?

Can girls use だよね in everyday conversations?
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The word いや - gender?

I've been told that いや (in its use similar to いいえ) is a mainly masculine word, but I've heard many female speakers use it, both as a filler and a content word expressing disagreement. Is it that young ...
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The gender of the word 素敵

素敵 is often described as a feminine word. Just how feminine is it? What would be the impression of a male speaker using it, if he didn't already use feminine speech?
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Do even Kansai women use the ~ん negative?

As in 分からん and ならん. In Standard (?) speech, I'm fairly certain it's masculine.
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What is the female equivalent for 「ご主人様」 or “master?”

In The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe novel, the character Aslan orders centaurs and eagles to chase a wolf, saying, "He will be going to his mistress." He is referring to the wolf's female master,...
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The positive ~じゃない

Just how feminine is it? How odd would it be if a male speaker said it? I have found one example of someone male using, in a piece of fiction: Lest レスト、 the main character of Rune Factory 4 ルーンファクトリー4、...
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Can a 皇帝 be female?

What would the word for empress (other than of Japan) be? Please give me the word for a ruling empress.
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Regarding the word あたくし [duplicate]

It seems too formal for casual use, but too casual for formal use. In what sort of situation would anyone use あたくし?
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Can 「奴」 be used to refer to a female?

Is the word 「奴」/「やつ」 (yatsu) ever used to refer to another female, or to refer to oneself if one is female? Or is it only used to refer to a male? Answers to this question touched on the word 「奴」, ...
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Could ルフレ be considered a gender-neutral name?

In the Fire Emblem: Awakening game, the avatar character — that is, the main character whose name and gender you pick — has a default name. In English, the default name is Robin, because the character ...
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Is using 笑 to mean “lol” feminine or gender-neutral?

On Facebook, you see 笑 getting used a decent amount to mean "lol". To my American eyes, using something that literally means "smile" - and even looks semi-subconsciously kind of like an advanced ...
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「ね」 vs 「な」 in 「そうだね」 /「そうね」/ 「そうですね」

Another thread stated that when expressing agreement, we can choose between 「ね」 and 「な」. 「ね」 is more feminine and 「な」 is more masculine. By that, would 「そうな」 be the masculine form of 「そうね」 ? Also, ...
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Are there stereotypical speech patterns or inflections associated with gay Japanese speakers?

This is not intended to be a controversial or provocative question. In English, there are "commonly accepted" stereotypes for how gay people sometimes speak. Are there corresponding characteristics ...
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What's the female equivalent for the informal ぼく?

What's the female equivalent for the informal ぼく? I've heard that females will tend to use わたし, but then it's said to be formal. Doesn't there exist a female informal "I"?
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Can ぼくたち (bokutachi) be used for mixed-gender group?

*disclaimer:*I'am still learning hiragana, so forgive me for any wrong spelling I've learnt that normally only males use ぼく (boku). What about ぼくたち (bokutachi)? Should it normally be reserved for ...
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Sounding slightly effeminate in Japanese

Sorry if this has already been asked somewhere or if this is an unconstructive question... I feel that my English speech is sometimes a bit effeminate (in informal conversation, that is). I would ...
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How to sound more manly when sneaking popcorn into the cinema

OK, really esoteric question time: So I went to the cinema with a female friend on the weekend. I was going to buy some of the horrendously overpriced popcorn there, but then she said: 持ってきちゃった! ...
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Using な or ね when addressing a mixed-gender group?

I have the basic understanding that ね is generally more formal/feminine and な is generally more informal/masculine. I was told that you tend to use ね as an emphasis if you are a) a female yourself or ...
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The gender of 子

Is 子 ever used to refer to a boy, or is it always used for girls? Is 悪い子 used only for girls?